Reblogged: 7 Powerful Reasons Why You Should Believe in Yourself

When I was in grade school until high school, I considered myself as an introvert.  I was afraid of talking to people.  I even afraid to have many friends.  I only have few.  I always wanted to be best in sports but nobody push me to do so.  I dreamt to be a beauty queen but I knew that I have no qualities of being so.  My dream was to be a news anchor but I'm not good in public speaking and afraid of the video camera.  I wanted to be a writer but I my grammar and composition is so poor.  And a lot lot more dreams that are still dream in the present.  And then I realized that I was not introvert but an insecure person.  I don't believe in myself.  I am afraid to be judged.  I have fear of being bullied.  And I can't face unfavorable comments and failures.

But as I grow older, it made me realized that I underestimate my capacity to be me.  I always put hindrances to my dreams.  I never gave myself a chance to be the best that I can be.  Achieving our goals and dreams are our responsibility.  All we need is to believe in ourselves.

Here are the reason why we should believe in ourselves:

7 Powerful Reasons Why You Should Believe in Yourself by Oskar Nowik

Some people say it’s resources, luck, background or connections that create successful people. Whereas I surely agree that all these and many other factors influence the path of every individual, the most contributing factor to achieving something significant is self-belief. Without this key ingredient, there’s not a lot that could help you.“The biggest difference I’ve noticed between successful people and unsuccessful people isn’t intelligence or opportunity or resources. It’s the belief that they can make their goals happen.”James ClearTo put yourself on the track to success, you need to understand that your brain always plays against you. It doesn’t care about your big goals, the only thing it wants is to keep you alive. Therefore, we experience procrastination, self-doubt, negative thinking, anxiety and so on. The sure-fire way to overcome these obstacles is to not believe in them and truly believe in yourself.

1. If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?Honestly, if you don’t believe you’re going to succeed, then how on earth would anybody else do? Let’s say you want to build a successful business and you need to convince the investors that your idea is the one worth putting funds into.The first thing is to absolutely believe your concept is going to succeed, otherwise no one will trust in it. You won’t either.Imagine living a life without arms and legs. This is the reality of Nick Vujicic. Most people including himself doubted his ability to live a normal life. He even attempted suicide. The moment he found belief, however, was the turning point.Now, Nick lives a life without limitations, traveling the world and inspiring millions of people to believe in themselves, regardless of circumstances.

2. You build self-confidence. If you are not confident enough, you’ll break like a twig the first time you face an obstacle. Whatever you want to achieve, there will be countless barriers questioning your competences. The only way to get through them is by being confident enough that you can and will.This confidence comes from within, from the deep belief in yourself and your abilities.

3. You are one step closer to winning and succeeding. There’s that one goal you have in mind for a long time. You know what it takes to get there and you know the examples of people who did it successfully. Now that the path is clear, what you need is to believe that you can do it as well, and then take action.By creating that positive attitude, you realize that what separates you from accomplishing your goal is just the matter of time and work. This feeling of being closer to your target drastically increases your chances of hitting it.

4. You inspire yourself to take action. Once you literally see yourself arriving at the desired finish line, you are highly motivated to work toward your goal. You know it’s doable and within your reach, so you attempt until you finally get there.Michael Jordan failed countless times. As he admits, he missed thousands of shots and lost hundreds of games. However, he realized that’s part of the process so he used it as a driving force to work even harder. He also emphasizes it’s failure that enabled him huge success.Jordan’s attitude is something everyone should borrow. When you fail over and over again, be aware that you are just getting closer to a triumph.

5. You form positive attitude required to success.“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”Winston ChurchillBeing negative and visioning the worst scenario is the easiest way to never achieve your goals. Due to self-belief, your attitude becomes the right one. There’s no way to convince a man with the wrong mindset that he can. Same goes for telling people with a positive attitude that they can’t. It’s like water off a duck’s back, they don’t hear the negative talk from the naysayers.

6. You realize failure is part of the process and temporary. Niklas Hed together with his mobile game development team created 51 games and all them were failures. This, however, enabled them to build Angry Birds, an app that dominated the app store and became a world wide phenomenon.Countless failures seemed to be the secret to succeeding. Some could think that creating 51 unsuccessful games means the failure is inescapable. But it turned out to be just temporary.Now, when you experience nothing but constant failure, don’t give up, maybe the next attempt is your pivotal moment.

7. You let the negative thoughts fade away. “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”Willie NelsonHow many times did you tell yourself you can’t? I used to do it way too often. Finding an excuse that seems reasonable is incredibly easy, since our brains love to rationalize.By feeding your brain with positive thinking and self-belief affirmations, you create no space for pessimistic thoughts. And even when they arrive from time to time, your confident attitude beats them instantly.

                                                                                                       Think Positive Be Positive!!

 

My Weekend Stories

Magandang Buhay Yamisweeters!

Lahat tayo ay looking forward sa weekend, di ba?  Kasi we can rest from weekdays challenges.  Pero for the #theMacs, no way.  Mas hectic ang schedule kapag weekends. Dahil boring ang Monday to Friday, bumabawe kami sa activities pag weekend.  Social skills ang aming FOCUS.  Eto yung time with our kids, "us time" naming mag-asawa, attending celebration of families, meeting new people at minsan rumaraket pa. Squeezed ang schedule namin into meetings, gathering, husband-wife date, church ministry and household things. Exhausting sya sa totoo lang pero minsan hindi talaga maiwasang magkasabay-sabay at kelangan na lang i-manage ng ayos.  Siguro part ito ng Mid-life Crisis namin.  Ang dami kasi namin gustong gawin.  We are full of ideas at gusto namin itong i-explore.  So thanks be to God for providing physical strength para magawa namin lahat ng mga activities. One best thing about the busy schedule is "bonding moment".  During driving, nakakapagkwentuhan kami.  Exchanging jokes, tsismis(haha!) and future plans.  Yun ang masaya! Kasi naman during weekdays eh stress sa work kaya less time ang kwentuhan.

So bakit ba nagku-kwento pa ako? Eh ano naman kung busy kami? (keber nyo) hihihi! Well, I just want to share our experiences.  Baka kasi nakaka-relate kayo sa amin so para damayan tayo. (lol!) I can give ideas on how to enjoy being together during busy schedules.

After sending our kids to Galileo Center, we drove to Lipa City for a meeting.  In this stage of our life, we want to explore all the opportunities that are being offered to us. We are kinda excited to meet new people, hear their views and opinions, learn new things, exchanging ideas and expertise, seeing new opportunities and learning how to socialize and win friends.  

It's a morning rush and we missed the breakfast at home.  So it's an opportunity for "us time" for brunch.  Kilig!! wala ang kids.  Haaay! sa wakas naka-pagdate din.  (weeeeee!!!!) We enjoyed our brunch at Pancake House-SLEX Petron.

Happy tummy ako at napa hastag CravingSolved ako sa Instagram using the Banana Walnut Waffle photo. During our brunch, we were able to discuss the things that we can share.  We heard each others view about the opportunity and ideas to discuss.  Actually, our conversation played as warm up para ma-stimulate na rin ang concept namin with the proposed project. I realized that it's really nice.  Good conversation can squeezed creative juices.

Tipid Tip for dining:  Wag ng mag-order ng drinks, free water na lang.  Tipid na healthy pa!

After our dining experience at Pancake House, we straight ahead to our meeting place at eto ang aming nadaanan.  Sunog!!!!!! A bush fire at SLEX along Sta. Rosa Laguna.  Scary sya! as in zero visibility.  Nakikita ko na yung apoy, as in parang kakainin kami.  Muntik na kaming bumalik.  Pero naka-move on naman ang traffic. Bumagal lang ang takbo ng mga sasakyan kasi mga ang kapal ng usok. Tsk tsk! sayang ang mga halaman na nasunog.  Sobrang init kasi! Summer na!

Safely, we arrived at our meeting place at sa Banay-Banay pala yun.  A newly-opened Cafe called Tuesday Cafe.  It is along the highway of Banay-Banay San Jose Batangas.

 It's cozy and chic. Parang Azumi Hotel lobby ang peg.  Syempre ang hinanap ko ay kapeng barako nung nag-order ako. Pero sad to say wala pa silang "Barakong Kape".  Sayang!  But the Store Manager promised that it will be available next week. 

I love chalkboard art!

So I tried their Java Chip version.  Masarap naman, hindi naman kasi ako Frap lover kaya I can't comment more. But I enjoyed it while exchanging ideas.

Practicing food photography

 Take note, I noticed that their cakes and pastries are from Purple Oven(my favorite).  Surely it's delicious. Look at the boxes oh.

The place is nice, clean and not crowded.  Good for meet up, business meetings and even for "me time".

 

We had a productive meeting.  Everything was discussed thoroughly, I guessed.   Pag nagkataon, this Cafe will be part of our history. (lol!)

Tipid Tip: Wag nang umorder ng cake o pastries, sabihin mo "I'm sacrificing sweets this Lenten Season."(lol)

Right after the meeting, we drove back to Manila for another meet up for that day.  It's a friendly gathering.  My movie buddy Shali invited us for the blessing of her new home. A lovely home. Me and the rest of my movie buddies enjoyed the sumptuous dinner.

My Movie Buddies

With our hubbies

We also had a very nice conversation and another creative juice was squeezed. I'm excited for our "emergency meeting". (lol)

Tipid Tip:Dagdagan na ang kain sa handaan para hindi na mag-midnight snack.(lol!)

The day was over and bed called us to rest and prepare for our Sunday Ministry.

Every Sunday, we are at The Feast-PICC.  Bisyo na'to! Last Sunday was the first talk of Rock Bottom Series: Down & Out.  It's all about how do you react when you're in a Rock Bottom of your life.  Bro. Bo Sanchez pointed out that "crosses that comes by CHANCE your action should be ACCEPTANCE". 1. Accept Reality 2. Accept Responsibility 3. Accept Rescue.  But if your crosses come by CHOICE, you should ACT.

"Feel what you feel, act what you know."

 My Take away: Aminin at tanggapin mo ang nararamdaman mo.  Pero gawin mo kung ano ang tama.

After the talk, we have a schedule for Servanthood 101.  Yes, we accepted God's calling for us to serve.  I am happy to share my talent into photography, that's why I joined the Media Ministry.  So before I will be considered a servant, I need to undergo 5 talks.  It was fun!  I've met new people.  Different age but same purpose-to serve the Lord.  I realized na sana pala noon pa ako nagsimula.  Pero hindi pa naman huli ang lahat.

I love Dahpne's Journal

So while we are in the Servanthood 101, kids are enjoying with the "Awesome Kids Ministry".  They had also a wonderful experience with other kids while learning the teachings of God.  God is great, he provides everything.

Wall Art outside the room for Kids Ministry

Serving the Lord with Holy Joy!

After the Sunday worship we went home happy and fulfilled.  Kahit pagod ang katawan, refreshed naman ang aming spirits. 

At the end of the day, isa lang naman ang masasabi mo eh.  "Thank you Lord for the physical strength, thank you for providing everything to us. We lift it up to you Oh Lord!"

The moon says "Shine like a diamond and be a light to someone. SMILE, you have a lot to thank for. Beauty of life is just around".

How about you, how's your weekend? Do you have a weekend story?

Cheers for Joy!

#ThinkPositive #BePositive

Reblogged: 6 Tell Tale Signs that You are a Discouraging Wife- and How to Change That

Happy Friday Yamisweeters!  The first week of February is almost done.  (ka-bilis!!!!) Well, that's why we should make our day as productive as it should be. Some of you are thinking of sweet present for our husband, boyfriend, friends, parents and siblings.  For me, one of the best we can ever give to someone special to us is the "good relationship".  One that is deep and strong.

Last night during my "me time", I've assessed myself and realized that I am complaining more about my husband's working time.  I recalled that I am expressing my disappointment how my husband is taking for granted his health because of his challenging job.  I noticed that, when I meet a person he knows, I can't help myself but to express my worries how he is spending most of his time WORKING..WORKING...WORKING...  In short,  I am not satisfied with his time management. Huh! So, disgusting- what kind of wife I am? Am I a discouraging wife or an encouraging one?

I am sharing this blog of Pastor's Wife.  I think it will help a married person(like me) assess ourselves on how to deal with this kind of situation and improve relationships.

Reblogged:

6 Tell Tale Signs that You are a Discouraging Wife- and How to Change That

 So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

I think that it is safe to say that the toughest battle a woman will face is insecurity. The longer that I am married and experiencing life as a wife and a pastor’s wife, I begin to understand one of the most reoccurring and significant battles a man will face is discouragement. Sometimes a man can dwell in this place of discouragement for too long and needs a wife that will infuse him with courage and remind him to not allow discouragement to take residence, but to be treated as a visitor that comes and goes.
It’s easy to be a discouraging wife and not realize your behavior is actually weakening your husbands faith and stripping him of any courage to go after his dreams, strive to reach his goals, and work hard to become better husband, father, and spiritual leader.
Here are 7 tell tale signs that you are a discouraging wife-and how to change it:
1. A Discouraging Wife Reminds her Husband of the Risk: When he wants to step out and try something new she is quick to show him the danger. Her words caution him to the point that he remains stagnant. He won’t seek a new job, start a new hobby, or become a more active spiritual leader. He will begin to feel unfulfilled and stuck in a safe routine. An Encouraging Wife Reminds her Husband of the Reward: She pushes him to step out and continually reminds him of the reward that awaits. She feeds him the courage he needs to initiate something new. He feels motivated and confident to seek a new job or begin a new ministry.
“Without good direction, people lose their way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances.” (The Message) Proverbs 11:14
2. A Discouraging Wife is Critical and Insulting. She is the first to point out his flaws and the negative effect he has on people. She reminds him of his insecurities and deficiencies. Sometimes she even jokes about his flaws and mishaps in front of others. This leaves him feeling alone and unsupported. He will feel that you are no longer his safe place. An Encouraging Wife Compliments and Honors. She praises him in private and in front of to others. She tells him specifically what she admires about his character, personality, and work. She reminds him of his positive effect on others and the success he has had in the past. He feels that his burdens are always shared with his wife. She is his safe place and the strength that keeps him moving forward toward his goals and dreams.
“The tongue can bring death or life;
those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Proverbs 18:21
3. A Discouraging Wife keeps Record of Wrongs. She reminds him of past failures and that any future attempts of his will only end in repeated failure. She remembers his shortcomings and replays them for him often. She holds to his account every word, argument, and insult that he has made. An Encouraging Wife keeps Record of Success. She is quick to remind him of his times of success and achievement. Her words fuel him with power to continue reaching and trying. She remembers his times of triumph and refers back to his achievement to encourage him to remain diligent. She doesn’t allow past arguments or ill spoken words to resurface.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” 1 Corinthians 13:4,5
4. A Discouraging Wife Complains. She is quick to point out all that she is unhappy with. Nothing is enough to satisfy her. He can’t help enough or do enough to please her. An Encouraging Wife Appreciates. She is content and thankful for her husband’s hard work and involvement with the family.
“Do everything without complaining or arguing” Philippians 2:14
5. A Discouraging Wife Hears, but doesn’t Listen. She hears what her husband has to say about his job, family, or friends when he is venting and emotional, but she is often too busy to truly listen and she disregards his stress. She continues with her activities or changes the subject to what interests her instead of acknowledging his difficulty. She minimizes his troubles and dismisses the opportunity to comfort and reassure him. An Encouraging Wife Listens. She empathizes with his troubles and allows herself to truly share in his feelings. She makes it her priority to respond with honesty and help. She prays for her husband in times of distress. She gives him a new and positive perspective concerning his struggles.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galations 6:2
6. A Discouraging Wife doesn’t let her husband lead. She questions his leadership and doubts his decisions. She doesn’t trust his discernment. She refuses to submit to him as head of the house. An Encouraging Wife will trust the judgement of her husband. She will follow the final decision of her husband as the head of the house. She is confident that he can hear from the Holy Spirit regarding important issues and the direction for the family.
“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24
Remember that a Word of Encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.
I hope that this post is an encouragement to be the wife that your husband needs and desires.
Thanks for reading!
Melissa
Photo courtesy of freedigitalphotos.net

Ouch! Sapol to the max! But anyway, every day is a learning day.  Let's always be open to improvement on our relationship as married.  One of the great thing we can do is to accept our flaws and change for better.

Be an encouraging wife!

xoxo
Yami
  

Do you want a Golden Eggs or Golden Chicken?

Good Day Yamisweeters!!!!

I'm baaaccckkk! hehehe!

Today I just wanna share a very sensible story from Bo Sanchez.  You know, I'm so addicted with Bo Sanchez's books.  Nakaka-inspire eh at saka nakakabait. Hihihi!  I wish this will enlighten you also.

Have a happy Thursday!  Enjoy reading!!!!

Do You Want Golden Eggs

Or Golden Chickens?

Don't count your eggs until the chicken's laid them.
Anonymous

          One day, a huge alien ship arrived on planet Earth.

          The aliens on the ship surveyed humankind and were so moved by the poverty they saw.  They pitied the poor so much, they decided to help. They left behind one of their very special chickens.

          Looking around, the aliens chose Mang Pong, a very poor farmer, to receive their wonderful gift. In the middle of the night, they teleported this chicken to the backyard of Mang Pong. And in a blink of an eye, the ship rocketed away to a far distant galaxy.

          When Mang Pong woke up the next morning, he discovered the strange-looking feathered creature at the back of his little hut. 

          "Where did that weird animal come from?” Mang Pong asked. "It's extra-large and has golden-colored wings!”

          But then something even weirder happened. When the chicken stood up, Mang Pong saw a shiny egg underneath it, glimmering under the sun. The chicken just laid a golden egg!

          Boy, was Mang Pong excited.

          He rushed out, sold the golden egg, and bought lots of food, new clothes, and new furniture for his tiny house. Life was great that day!

          The following month, Mang Pong couldn't believe his eyes. Because the chicken laid another golden egg! So he ran to town, sold again the golden egg, and bought an iPod, a laptop, a jacuzzi, and a 60-inch LED TV. Ah yes, life was becoming very sweet for Mang Pong.

          And when the third month came, he already expected the egg.  And he sold the golden egg and bought more stuff.

          But the next day, Mang Pong grew very impatient. He realized that he had to wait for another month for the next egg. But he wanted buy his own personal helicopter and his very own private helipad. He badly needed more golden eggs!

          And then he had a brilliant idea—or so he thought.

          You see, Mang Pong wasn't very bright.

          He said, "Where are these eggs coming from? From inside the chicken!” 

          So he grabbed the alien chicken, got his sharpest knife, and cut it open.

          But alas, Mang Pong didn't find a single golden egg inside.

          And the alien chicken was now dead!

          Mang Pong cried at the loss of his chicken and all her golden eggs.

          And slowly, the farmer had to sell his clothes, his furniture, his iPod, his laptop, his jacuzzi, and his wide-screen TV.

          And in a year, the farmer became very poor again.

          One day, as he walked around town depressed, he met one person who had become very rich. And the man was thanking him profusely. 

          "Why are you thanking me?” he asked.

          "Remember the golden egg you sold me?” he said.

          "Yes, of course,” Mang Pong said.

          "Well, the egg hatched…” he said. 

           "What do you mean the egg hatched?” the farmer asked.

          "I placed it in an incubator. After 12 months of care, it hatched and out came a chicken.  A very special chicken. It's extra-large and has golden wings. But more importantly, it lays golden eggs!”

          Mang Pong could only stare in disbelief. 

          Every egg he sold—given the right conditions—could have become a chicken!

          Oh, if only he kept the eggs and made it hatch—then he would have had many chickens laying golden eggs for him every day.

          After many years, the alien ship returned to planet Earth. 

          They were happy to discover some had become wealthy.

          The rich were those who owned chickens that laid golden eggs. 

          But they were also sad that many remained poor, including Mang Pong.

Money or Money Machines?

          This is the story of many poor people.

          The poor prefer golden eggs (money) rather than the chicken that lays them (money machines).

          Remember this lesson: Every golden egg has a chicken inside. 

          Do you have money right now?

          Inside every coin and paper bill is a money machine.

          You just need to "incubate” it for some time. 

          So you always have a choice. 

          You can "spend” the egg or you can make the egg become a chicken.

Blessing or Burden?

          How many of you are praying for a house? 

          How many of you are praying for a car?

          Do you want to make that happen?

          I'll teach you to adjust your prayer.

          Don't just pray for a house or a car.

          Because if you do, this is what will happen:

          Mike says, "Lord, give me a car!”

          And kaboom, the car appears in front of him.

          "Praise the Lord!” Mike says. 

          But in no time, he'll have more needs.

          Very quickly, he'll be praying, "Lord, give me gas!”

          Soon, he'll also pray, "Lord, give me money for the tune up and change oil.”

          The car that was a blessing has become a burden. 

          Remember: Money without money machines are not blessings but burdens. 

          Because the things that you buy with your money need more money to maintain them.

          Here's how you should pray for a house and a car.

          "Lord, give me a money machine so that I can buy a house and car!”

          The money machine should come first.

          The liabilities should come later.

Spend vs. Incubate?

          Your golden eggs—if you incubate them—can become chickens.

          Your money—if you don't spend it—but incubate it—can become a money machine. 

          We've been brainwashed with a wrong spirituality: We've made God the chicken.  We've made Him our money machine.

          But from experience, God doesn't give money.

          He gives us money machines that will give the money.

          God wants to provide money machines for you.

          Here are the different types of money machines: (1) job, (2) self-employment, (3) paper investments, (4) businesses, and (5) properties.

          I repeat: Don't just pray for money. 

          They'll become burdens, not blessings. 

          Instead, pray for money machines that produce the money.

Two Components of Financial Wealth

          Friends, let me define what Financial Wealth is to you.

          Financial Wealth is not money. Or property. Or stocks. Or jewelry. Or houses. Or cars.  All those are simply fruits of wealth but not wealth itself.

          In fact, I believe wealth consists of two things.

          First, having a mindset to create money.

          Second, having an ability to create money.

          This is what wealth is all about.

          Some people are confused. 

          They think that wealth means golden eggs. 

          But wealth is not owning golden eggs.

          Wealth is owning the chicken that lays the golden egg.

          Some people think rich people have Rolexes, BMWs, and expensive clothes.

          No. All these are golden eggs. (Some of them have borrowed those golden eggs and are paying huge interests!)

          It's not how many golden eggs you have.

          It's how many chickens you have that can lay golden eggs.

May your dreams come true,

          Bo Sanchez

 

         

Source: Newsletter from http://trulyrichclub.com/

 Have a great day ahead!!!!! God Bless your day!

xoxo
Yami