100 things to thank for: Day #31-Bestfriend Talk

Yesterday was my bestfren's ??th birthday. Hahaha! And I called her on the phone!  OOhhhhmmmmgeee! We have a lot to catch up.  I believe talaga na "best friends are forever" kahit ano pa ang mga pinagdadaanan.  When you got a chance to talk,  kulang ang oras.  Haaaay!  I wish we have all the time to cover up the days that we neglected each other.  Ang tagal na namin di nakikita tapos kapag nag-usap very limited time at pangit pa ang signal.  Waaaahhh!  But despite that,  happiness pa din.  At least we got a chance update each other's status.  Wala kasi syang facebook account.  Hehehe!

I'm so happy talaga,  hearing her news.  Kahit medyo she sounds so worried at least I got a chance to lift her up.  Thanks God for the chance although I have a lot of chance hindi ko lang ginagamit.  I felt the guilt of negligence for our friendship.  Knowing also that she follows me in my blog is one of the greatest compliment.  Wow! Ang saya!  Na-aapreciate nya ang aking stories and sharing ko.  I'm so thankful for that.

I perfectly agree with the note from my favorite website "Lifehack".  It says:

"A best friend is someone you're not only going to love all your life, they are also your biggest critic and strongest supporter.  They are your late-night mentors, daylight umbrellas, and midday co-conspirators.  Not only do best friends adore you, they also make it a point to let the world know that they do. You feel secure with them, but more importantly being vulnerable never felt as comfortable as it does when you're with them.
Best friends calm your deepest fears and tickle all your bones.  They are truly a blessing you stumbled upon."

 

100 things to Thank for: Day#32-Frustration as Fuel

What a wonderful day is TODAY!!!!

Last night, when I got home my son Marco expressed his frustration about losing a kid's game.  He kept on crying and can't find focus on his assignments.  So, I ask him to lie down on my lap and talk about it.  Marco is a kid with lots of frustration because he look at himself as a perfectionist.  He can't hide emotions, so whenever he gets disappointed, he will cry and cry and cry.  Sabi nya kasi sa akin,  "kilala mo naman ako Mommy. di ba?  Ganito talaga ako.  So,  I allow him to cry until he got tired of it.  I gave him advices to pacify him.

Kagaya ni Marco, marami rin akong frustrations eh, kaya nga sabi ko sa kanya na parehas kami.  We have lots of attitude in common.  I see myself in him.  But since mature na ako, I know how to handle it properly.  But as a mother I need to focus in this area of his growing stage.

That's why I'm thankful for today's note from brain4body.

Why Frustration is FUEL.
Firstly, as annoying as frustration is how much worse would it be to be resigned – without hope – to the way that it is?
To live complacent and compliant.
To wallow in the way that it is – not happy – yet not fuelled by anything strong enough to make a change.
Second, here are 3 awesome things about FRUSTRATION:
1. Frustration is proof that you know there ARE other options. Also that you believe you can and should experience those other options. 
The very nature of frustration implies you know it could be different right?
And the thing that causes you to give up is when you have lost faith and hope of it being different.
So, frustration is your little (ok, sometimes large!) action signal prompting you to ask yourself:
“How can I make this the way I want it to be?” either right now or the next time you encounter that frustrating situation.
2. Frustration gives you clarity on what you don’t want. As much as I want you to focus on what you DO want, a first part of knowing that can be having clarity on what you’re super keen to avoid.
Random example… I wasn’t quite so totally-100%-crystal-clear on just how vitally important Freedom is to me until I truly experienced feeling utterly trapped and restricted.
3. Frustration causes you to analyse your approach. So you’re not getting results – and Yes, that’s frustrating however it’s also a chance to understand WHY.

I was alarmed that frustrations can hinder my son's success as a person.  The article gave the the idea on how to change our behaviour with the 5 levels of change as follows:

1. IDENTITY (who you are) = MOST powerful.
2. BELIEFS (and values).
3. CAPABILITIES (skills).
4. BEHAVIOUR (habits).
5. ENVIRONMENT (the place / people you’re with right now or the company / city / world you’re a part of) = LEAST powerful.

It will me guide on how to handle Marco's frustrations as well as mine.

Let's take Frustration as fuel to meet our life's goal.

Be Positive Think Positive!

100 Things to Thank for: Day#34:Motivation and Reminder

  Today, I'm so thankful for my Monday Motivation.  It is very useful on my passion goal.  I work hard to meet my happiness in this aspect of my life.  For me, Happiness=Goal.  I started my fitness goal about two years ago.  And I admit,  I have a lot of loop hole.  Kasi di ko maiwasan ang mga temptation sa pagkain.  But all in all I'm so diligent with my work out and I believe that with this baby steps I will gain my lifetime goal, "a healthy lifestyle".  I am keeping my motivation because baby steps are not forever.  Whether I like it or not I will take a leap to reach the success on my goal.  Haha! Big word ba?  Masyadong seryoso ang peg ko.  Eh kasi naman gusto ko talaga ma-meet ang goals ko.  Bakit naman hindi????  Gusto kong sumexy, gusto kong lumevel up sa photography, gusto kong mag-improve sa blogging, gusto kong mag-manage ng sarili kong business,  gusto kong mag-travel at gusto kong mag-share ng happiness.  Kaya puro motivation ang mga binabasa ko kasi, we are what we read.  And of course dapat naman happy talaga ako, yung tagos sa puso at nakikita ng ibang tao at nakaka-inspire.

So ngayon, find time to read this blog kasi malaking tulong ito sa akin eh.  May project ako this month and I think this will be very helpful to me.  Sana sa inyo din. 

Reblogged:

071: Monday Motivation, 11 Things To Forget Doing Today.

Todays show is inspired by me feeling like there are too many things I want to start doing… not just an excited yeah that’d be cool feeling – more a slightly anxious, even overwhelmed, pretty Un-fun feeling.
You get like that too right?
So I’ve turned the start doing list on it’s head and decided to focus instead on: 11 Things To Forget Doing Today. This show is going to focus more on the thoughts to forget rather than the actions which I covered in the #048 show on Why Your Not To Do List Comes First.
Ok, let’s get rolling…

#1. FORGET Focusing on how far you’ve got to go or how much you’re yet to do or even how much you’ve yet to have.
Sometimes EVERYTHING that we know we should be doing can get just a little – yes – That ‘O’ word… taking any one action is always going to be more effective than sitting and worrying about how you’re going to accomplish all of your actions.
Yes, with all the options for training & nutrition it’s possible to get stuck analysing & never actually start. However, SOMETHING is always going to be better than nothing – don’t be a perfectionist waiting for the perfect program or the perfect timing, jump in & just make a start.
Plus, it get’s you outta ‘stuck mode’ and into progress mode.  What’s one action that will bring you closer to your goal?

#2. FORGET Negativity, your own, other peoples and especially those silly little things that are really not worth your energy to get all worked up over.
Input determines output. 
So be ruthless with the input you allow into your mind – it’s as important as the input you allow into your belly.

#3. FORGET Wishing it was easier. 
The fact is you can’t control making things easier, you DO have absolute control over being better. Challenges make us realise how important our goals are. They make us ask: “What am I willing to do to make this the way I want it? 

#4. FORGET Waiting for the easy done for you solution.
It’s a lie. It doesn’t exist. Waiting for it is a massive, disheartening waste of time.
The non-sexy news is that as with everything else of value, the attainment of your ideal body does involve hard work. Your choice is to focus on the pain of that ‘hard work’ or to focus on pleasure that the results for your commitment will allow you to experience.

#5. FORGET Hoping the approach that hasn’t worked in the past might work this time.
The value in that old approach is not to slide back into it because it’s familiar. It’s there to show you what situations you need to get better at out-planning/avoiding this time.

#6. FORGET Falling for the same danger situations.
I did this for years – one of the best things I ever did was to admit my weakness’s so far as food and exercise and to consciously NOT leave myself vulnerable to them day after frustrating-discipline-failing day.

#7. FORGET Taking short-cuts.
When I’m brutally honest the people with the results I want – whether it’s in health, business, family or anything - worked for it. In health especially, what you’re NOT willing to do will reveal how committed you are to what you want to do.

#8. FORGET Ineffective busyness.
I listened to a podcast this week which described when Bill Gates first met Warren Buffett. Over dinner at the Gates’ house Gates’ mum, asked everyone at the table to identify what they believed was the one most important factor contributing to their success through life.
Gates and Buffett gave the same one-word answer: FOCUS.

#9. FORGET Speaking to yourself in a manner you wouldn’t speak to your best friend.
Would you still have any good friends if you spoke to them the way you speak to yourself and your body?
Your unconscious mind is listening to everything you say – and it believes it – for better or worse. So, unless you want it to keep seeking out evidence and opportunities to support how lazy you are or how repulsive your huge fat belly is then you need to talk to it – to YOU – in the way that you’d expect to heard your best friends’ new boyfriend speak to her. With love, support and respect.

#10. FORGET Fear of failure.
Perhaps your best secret weapon in achieving your goal is an absolute refusal to accept failure as an option.
Challenges are built into fat loss as they are built into life and it’s not about getting rid of them, but about becoming who you need to be to handle them effectively. 
If every setback was merely feedback – an opportunity to refine your approach for a different outcome next time would this free you to give it your very best shot? To welcome feedback will allow you to learn from every experience and be flexible enough to make the necessary changes to get the result you do desire.
I’ve had a fair bit of experience with failure (!) and the upside to that is I’ve learnt it’s not permanent. It doesn’t define me. AND being frozen with fear that it might possibly happen is a huge waste of energy, time and life.
I think Failure deserves a whole show of it’s own though so stay tuned!

#11. FORGET The way you expected it to be.
It’s natural and awesome and at times an absolute lifeline to have dreams, aspirations and expectations.
However, it’s also essential to acknowledge and appreciate reality so that you’re in the best possible position to make great decisions for your life today onwards.
You’re stronger because of the tough times, wiser because of your mistakes and happier because you’ve experienced sadness.
Todays quote encompass’s a couple of our forgets… I’m handing over to Johnny Cash: “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.“
Ok, it must be time to get actionable.
I’m sure some of these forgets resonate with you more than others. If you had to pick one to get fabulous at forgetting this week what is it?  That’s the action for today.
Mine is #1. #1. FORGET Focusing on how far you’ve got to go.
I’d love to hear yours – or even better, perhaps you could let me know the forgets I’m forgetting! You can let me know via the comments below.
That brings us to the end of Healthification #071. It’s been my privilege spending this time with you. BIG, thanks to you. I’ll be back tomorrow with the Tuesday Tucker show and: Making Addiction Work For You.
If you liked this you’ll also like: Self Sabotage: 5 Things To Stop Doing Today.
If you’re yet to share the Healthification love – just click here to zip over to iTunes and leave an honest rating and review. It’d help me out big time. 

With gratitude, Kate.

Let's go for our goal, Yamisweeters!  Yebaaaaa!

 

100 Things to Thank for: Day#33-Investing in self care

Good Day Yamisweeters!  It's been a while.  Busyness strikes again and I missed my blogging goal.  Pero hindi ko naman nakakalimutan, I just want to make things in order para balance.  I am focusing on my mom and day jobs plus my photography project this coming Saturday.  So medyo, hinay hinay muna sa blogging though i want it everyday sana, kaya lang hindi talaga keribels.  Moms like me are busy people.  We start our day at 5:00 or even earlier,  then non-stop duties the whole day until almost midnight.  Kumusta naman????Haggard na!!! That's why we deserve a self-care.  "It's important to take care of yourself so that you can give, show love/happiness/kindness, and nurture others."

From this article, look what I've snipped.

"Ladies, self-care isn’t selfish, it’s self-preservation!  

This is an important point to remember.  Taking time out to treat your body like the temple it is can be very beneficial.  It can remind yourself and others that you and your needs are important, too. Having a well-cared-for body can make you feel good about yourself and your life, and conveys to others that you value yourself. This can contribute to long-term feelings of well-being.  People who neglect their own needs and forget to nurture themselves are at danger of deeper levels of unhappiness, low self-esteem and feelings of resentment. Sometimes people who spend their time only taking care of others can be at risk for getting burned out on all the giving, which makes it more difficult to care for others or themselves. Taking time to care for yourself regularly can make you a better caretaker for others.  When you don’t take care of yourself, you can get sick.  From headaches to catching every virus in the vicinity to developing heart disease, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, and other illnesses"…


Today, I'm thankful for this.

Yes, I am taking care of myself through my daily workouts, reading, enjoying my passion and hanging out with family and friends.  But I realized that there are other things I'd like to get into:

-Occasional spa treatments.  I also enjoy massage and facials.  Pero dahil tipid tipid din pag may time.  Neglected sya ng matagal na panahon na.  Maybe, it's time for me to indulge myself into it once in a while.  I deserve din naman.

-Meditation.  Earlier today, I saw my fitness consultant.  She is convincing me to join the yoga class every Sunday and Monday.  But I told her that my schedule don't permit it.  And she said, give a little time.  It's only one hour, a time for yourself.  Oo nga naman!  kahit once a month lang.  It might help me in doing well with my emotional issues.

-Shopping.  Oh I love shopping!  It's really a good self-care. hahaha! Nakaka-relate!!!!!!! 


Spoiled na spoiled na raw ako sabi ni husband, but we must take care of ourselves in order to take care for others.(Lol!!!)

Ikaw?  Do you invest in self-care? What recharges your mental and physical batteries?

100 things to thank for: Day #30: Excitement

I am thankful for my everyday excitement of my life.  I am excited to go to the gym, read new blogs and new books, finish my work, practice photography, blog, go home and see my kids, sleep with my husband and a lot more.  Even if it is a routine I always put energy to do it so I can live the way I want.  I admit that there are boring times but I keep looking for things that can make things different.  Even the phone calls can make my day as excited as it is.  I try to erase negative thoughts especially if I’m so tired of doing the same thing over and over again.  I keep looking for things that can make me occupied and forget the usual things that give me boredom.

For today, I am so excited with the result of my nephew’s board exam.  I am positive to pursue my dream business venture.  My team and I in 3M1D Photography are preparing hard for our first ever “Wedding Photography”.  As I imagine all of it, my Tuesday became even better than other Tuesdays of my life.  I am full of hope and enthusiastic in everything I wanna do.  I even forget my worries for Marco because he has flu at the moment.  I know soon, he will get fine and can go back to school.

 

Let's keep being optimistic and excited!  

Happy Tuesday Yamisweeters!

Save the Date: JL and Gel

It was a rainy afternoon at Pinto Art Antipolo City.  We met the lovely couple and prepared for their photo shoot.  It was such a nice experience for us newbie photographers. We're overwhelm for the trust.  Natural sweetness comes out as we go on the shoot.

Here are the few shots.

Photographer: Yami Macalintal
Videographer: Erwin Zamora

Best Wishes!
   

100 things to Thank for Day #27: Happy Thoughts

I'm just so thankful for the happy thoughts that runs out my veins.  My life isn't that perfect.  I also have up and down moods. I do have lonely times and disappointments.  But I can barely share that happy thoughts keep me going even with bad days.  God is great because He keeps reminding me that life is awful and he teaches me how to be more grateful for everything I have.

Cheers Yamisweeters!  Let's keep a happy thoughts.

100 Things to Thank for-Day #25: Being Compassionate

One question that tickled me this morning.

What Word Best Describes You?

My Result: Compassionate: You are a truly kind person. You are always thinking about other people and those around you are always drawn to you when they are troubled. Remember not to always put yourself last.

This is the result for my quiz taken early today. Oh really???? Am I??? 

Well, thank you and I will always do.

If you want to know yours. Take this quiz.

Have fun!