Lately, I've been so busy with many things about being a woman, a mom, an employee and a wife. I struggled on doing what I love at the same time doing my duties. I do have a lot of expectations from myself that leads to disappointments and imperfection.
I keep asking myself, who really I am???? What is the best in me???? How can I contribute to the world?
And the answer is this:
I am happy to share to you this week's challenge and I encourage you to do it when you feel the same way with me.
Week 27: Be
Yourself - 4 Ways to Bring Out Your Best You!
"Be Yourself,
Everyone Else is Taken." - Oscar Wilde
Dear Friends,
In recent conversations,
the theme "be you" came up several times. And when themes
emerge, I always like to seek the lesson for myself and eventually share it
with you. If you feel like sometimes you struggle with saying what you
mean, doing what you love or relaxing around certain people, then this week's
topic is especially for you. Yet even if you are confident and sure that
you are comfortable being "you," there is often room to go a little
deeper - an opportunity to uncover another layer of authenticity and free
yourself to unapologetically be you.
Not being at ease with
yourself just as you are is exhausting. You might not even realize the
amount of energy that you drain keeping up appearances, attempting to be
perfect, pleasing other people and trying to make yourself fit in,
in situations that simply are not you. The notion of "being
yourself" can feel a little vague, so this week, I have five practical
strategies that will help you be yourself and maximize your best
you:
1. Say
what you need to say.
Are you beating around
the bush? Too afraid to speak up? Have you found yourself telling a
"little lie" to avoid embarrassment or telling the truth?
That's a clear sign that you are not being you. Identify at least one
situation in which you have not said what you need to say. When you
finish reading this, go to who you need to go to and just say it. If you
can't say it now, then mark your calendar for the day and time when you
will. Authenticity means being forthright, so you don't waste precious
energy pretending all is well when it isn't.
2. Wear what makes
you feel your best.
It may seem superficial,
but it's not. Clothing is a language all its own. What does yours
say about you? And is that message consistent with who you truly
are. When I transitioned from running a public relations firm that focused
on corporate clients to my current work in personal and spiritual growth, I
changed my daily wardrobe. Out with the suits (which I thought made me
look more mature and credible since I was in my 20s then), and in with a more
relaxed, fun look. But truth be told, I could have been more relaxed and
fun, yet professional back then. Be creative to dress in a way that makes
you feel good, even when your choices are restricted for professional reasons.
3. Do what you
know is right.
There is nothing more
authentic than living your values. When your actions don't line up with
your beliefs, inner turmoil is sure to follow. Do what's right and you'll
have a sense of peace about your decisions and actions.
4. Give yourself
permission to be imperfect.
Most of the time, when
we are uncomfortable in our own skin, it is because we haven't given ourselves
permission to be human. In other words: permission to be
imperfect. When you relax, you enjoy yourself more. When you value
the journey as much, if not more, than the destination, you embrace the fact
that there will be bumps along the road - but they don't have to keep you from
reaching your destination.
5. Breathe.
Anytime you feel
yourself getting anxious, feeling tempted to step away from just being you,
take a deep breath. Breathe and get centered again. It's such a simple
concept - just like being yourself.
My challenge to you this
week:
Be yourself!
Journaling assignment:
When are you most likely
to not be yourself? What are you afraid will happen if you are the real
you? What do you do specifically that does not really represent who you
really are? When will you stop doing that? Will you try
today? Head over to my blog and
leave your comments, I'd love to hear from you!
Until next time ...
Happy Monday Morning Yamisweeters!
Thanks for dropping by.
Be Positive Think Positive
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