Cobe Turns One

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Event: Cobe's 1st Birthday
Date: May 24, 2014
Venue: KFC Makati Cinema Square
Photo&Video: 3M1D Photography

How to be a good wife?

This morning when I opened my Facebook account, I have one private message.  A cousin asking, “Ate Miriam, pwede ba akong humingi ng advise?  I said, “Oo naman, anything, anytime”.  She replied, “Paano ba maging good wife?”

I paused and asked myself, paano nga ba? 

After attending a Sunday Mass with my husband,  I asked him.  “Da, good wife ba ako?”  He replied, “That’s a good question. Actually you are more than a good wife. Everyday, you do try to prove yourself that you are good wife to me and in every moment that you tried, you convinced me how good you are and that makes you better one. And the better you are, brought out not just a perfect wife, but more than perfect. You are a great wife."

Waaahhhhh!  Kilig to the bones!  And of course aside from that sweet answer he has naughty whisper pa.  (Sweet talaga!) hehehe!  Ganyan kami eh, bolahan pa din everyday. (LOL!)

Basically, we can’t say that we’re good or great wife.  Only our partner can tell how great we are.  Being a good wife depends on the needs of a husband.  I can’t say that my ways will be perfect for all wives out there.  It’s our own discovery on how to be great to our partner.

But since, she asked for my opinion.  I am happy to share my secret being a “great” wife according to my husband.

1.     Be a happy wife.

Being married is a very challenging “status” in life.  We have more obligation, more responsibilities, more concern but more happiness.  One of our first obligations is to be physically, mentally, emotionally and financially stable.  How can we do our job as a wife if we’re sickly, short-tempered, and unhappy?  Mabilis mag-init ang ulo natin.  As a wife, we must eat well, exercise, read, relax, enjoy our passion and have “good” friends.  We must be healthy so that we can take good care of our partner.  A happy wife is a happy life. It's not a sin to find your happy place once in a while.  A wife must have self-fulfillment physically and emotionally.

2.     Know your husband. 

In marriage, every day is a getting-to-know-you moment.  We discover several attitudes as we grow up together in a relationship.  We must be observant in every action of our partner.  It’s important to know their likes, wants and even their dislikes.  In that way, we can work out how to please him when he’s upset,  how to react when he’s angry or how to celebrate when he’s happy. “Love your partner according to your partner’s needs.” Find out what makes our spouse feel loved so we can show our love in a way that it will be well-received

3.     Always show respect to your partner

Showing respect to our partner is a habit that is worth creating, as it’s a necessary   ingredient for creating a happy, healthy and long lasting connection. When we express respect towards our partner, we are expressing our love, acceptance, and warmth. When we express disrespect, we are expressing that we don’t accept your partner. Respecting our partner is all about valuing them for who they are, including differences. We may have a different outlook on life but this does not mean that we should disrespect our partner and put them down.  It is one way of building “trust” to our spouse in his ability and attitude.  Avoid funny moments for our partner’s weaknesses in public or in front of our family and friends.  It may encourage disrespect for him self and can lower his morale.  As a wife, our role is to always support them in any ways.

4.     Communicate more.

We have such busy schedules that connecting with our partner throughout the day can be last priority, but if you we to have a happy, long-lasting relationship, reconnecting with our partner throughout the day is crucial. It can be as simple as sending a loving text during our lunch break or giving our partner a call on the way home. This habit is meant to keep the connection and focus with our partner. Even if you have a hectic schedule, you can still make the time to spend a text message or give your partner a phone call. Be creative. Think of ways that we can do to reconnect with our partner throughout the day.  Don’t forget to tell our partner essential things every day.  Start a conversation after work by asking “How’s your day? Or “I love you” as you wake up or when he is leaving.  Compliment him also by saying, “You’re so handsome or You’re so hot, today.”  Saying “Please”, “Thank you” and “I’m sorry” really help in being a “good wife”.  Give him a chat, text or e-mail, if he is working far from you.  It’s a big deal for him, I bet.

 5. “Breathe, Think, Pause……and Respond” when in arguments.

We can’t avoid arguments, because that’s part of a relationship.  Do accept that we are two different persons so it’s normal that couples have opposite views.  When conversation are getting hot and will turn into flame, I have a formula “Breathe, Pause, Think……and Respond”.  Most misunderstanding became huge issues because we react and say something that ten minutes later we wish that we hadn’t said. True, di ba?  But if we can control ourselves and follow the formula BREATHE-take the oxygen in that will allow you to think clearly. PAUSE-allow your conscious mind to take control.  THINK-let the most useful resourceful, ‘solution-focused’ response come to you and only then you should RESPOND, we will notice huge improvements in dealing arguments.

6. Embrace Imperfection

No one is perfect. Sometimes you’ll need to get over the little things your partner does that bother you. That’s one of the good things in marriage.  As we grow into relationship our imperfection became perfect because we we’re able to accept each other and we get use to it.  In my experience, one of the imperfections that my spouse really bothers me is being always late.  For ten years, I live with it.  I overcome it and I became a late person too. Hahahaha! I was able to embrace his imperfection.

7. Transparency

It’s so important that we have transparency in all aspect of our relationship: finances, plans, outside family and work.  It’s our obligation to tell everything to our spouse because he deserves to know everything.  Remember that husband and wife are one.  One decision, one trouble and one success! 

8. Provide the time that he needs.

Wives are always so busy doing chores at home especially if we have kids around.  Make sure to allot extra time just for our husband only.  It’s the time where you can talk about each other.  Listen to his stories and dreams.  Getting away from the rest of the world at least once a year can do wonders for a relationship. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive, but it can make a big difference in the health of your relationship. Make your weekend away a priority each year. Take turns planning your weekends each year to surprise him or plan your weekends together as a couple.

9. Learn every day.

Allot time to read personality development books, blog and articles.  It can help improve our character to meet the needs of our partner.  

10.  Be a praying wife

At the end of the day,  all we need is prayer.  Always ask guidance to be a good wife.  When we are happy, PRAY.  When we are upset, PRAY.  When we are angry, PRAY.  When we are in doubt, PRAY.  God will lead us the way we want. 

 That's all I can share.  Do I forget something?  If you're a wife, what can you share?  Feel free to share your secrets being a great wife.  We can learn from you too.  Everyday and everywhere is a source of learning about life.  Learning and sharing can make the world happier.

Be Positive Think Positive!

Midas Touch: 7th of my 15 Books to Read

Hola Yamisweeters!

Yipee! I'm on my 7th book.  I am beating my schedule for my goal this year to read about 15 books until December.  It's a feeling of self fulfilment, surpassing my own challenge. Hehehe!  For some I'm boring but this is my way on how to improve myself because I admit to myself that I have a lot to learn.  Even blogging is such a trying hard on my part because I have problems with composition and grammar but I believe that I can improve by way of reading and conversing.  Excuse me for that explanation (hihihi), what i've said is just a part of my insecurities. Yeah, but I'm coping up to beat that attitude, that's why I keep reading to realise my dream to be a writer and entrepreneur, like these two authors.(Lol!)

For now, while I'm working out for my dream, I'd like to share to you my latest read.

The second book of Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki.  This book is for entrepreneurs.  If you're thinking of starting your own business or you already have one and you want it to level up?  This book is a good investment because it gives fantastic insights and candid lessons to start and to succeed in business and entrepreneurship.   They shared their own stories on how they failed and how they became influential entrepreneurs in the United States and in the world.

The way they delivered their stories and the education they attained through experience makes me inspire to pursue my dream to be an entrepreneur in the near time.  I became so aggressive in looking for opportunities in business.  The five points of Midas Touch influenced not only to my aspiration as entrepreneur but also in dealing my everyday life.

Five points of Midas Touch:
1. Strength of Character
2. Focus
3. Your Brand
4. Relationship
5. The little things that count

I am so happy for this book, I learned a lot.  I am trying to apply those five points in pursuing my passion into photography.  I'm so encouraged with the following:

"The number of hours working or practicing for free also determines the level of success you will have in anything."

"Having a vision for something can be very powerful in accomplishment.  Be sure, mine is intact.  Seeing myself as victorious is a big first step and should stay in me in every step of the way.  Those who persevere, and those who take risks, have a real chance of acquiring the MIDAS TOUCH.  Most importantly, never give up.  And don't forget the learning curve.  Learn something new everyday."

"People often think a brand is a logo.  They think it's an advertising campaign or sales promotion.  It is none of these things.  A BRAND is two words: the 'Promise' you telegraph, and the 'Experience' you deliver." 

 "Business is easy. People are difficult.  Learning to deal with different people seems to be a process without end, and we can always learn more."

"Listening is a sign of respect.  Being interested rather than trying to be interesting is also a sign of respect.  Be respectful and you will win, not only in business but also in LIFE."

My greatest take away is that everyday is a journey of learning.  We don't need to go to expensive schools to achieve the lessons that we need to learn.  Every experience, whether good or bad are the ways of teaching.  And even the experience of other people.  The authors said, "Our creator gave us two eyes, two ears and only one mouth.  The message is: listen more, observe more and talk less."

If you want to read it, you can message me and I will lend it to you.

Thank you for dropping by, it's my pleasure to read comments from you.

Here are list of my books in case you missed it and wanna read my reviews:
1.The Alchemist
2. Tuesdays with Moorie
3. Eat That Frog
4. No Nonsense Personal Finance
5. Rich Dad Poor Dad
6. Why we want you to be Rich


I don't have the complete list yet.  Any recommendation?

Watch out for my next book: Good to Great by Jim Collins.  It's leadership book.  I look forward what can I learn from it.

Be Positive Think Positive!

Infinity Resort: Malasimbo Spa and other activities

Thank you for visiting my blog about Infinity Resort.  I am not yet done.  Here is my second post about our recent activity.  I just love the place that's why I'm so excited to share to you the photos I got from this place.

One of the amenities in Infinity Resort is the Malasimbo Spa.

Malasimbo Spa

They are offering Massage Therapy, Facial, Body Polish, Pampering journeys and other salon services.  According to the staff, masseur/masseuse are trained at The Farm by San Benito.  The famous spa in Lipa City, Batangas.

Feel free to browse the photos inside the Spa.

Entrance

Reception Area

Lounge with amazing woodworks and mirrors

Spa Room

Jacuzzi Room

Jacuzzi

Jet Hydromassage

Big room that can accommodate one family

 The room is facing Mt. Malasimbo

I just love the wood and mirror art.

The big tree in the middle of the Villa

Fish Spa

Salon for Mani-pedi, etc.

Relaxing with the view of Mt. Malasimbo.

Check out the rates here

Sad to say, but I was not able to experience any of the services.  At least I have reason to come back. Ahihihi!

I'd like to add also the other activity that you can enjoy when you visit Puerto Galera.  They offer several water sports.

Kayaking

Island Hopping

Parasailing

Banana Boat

Even dolphin watching

Fly Fish

I love the clear sea water

I enjoyed the place so much

Had so much fun!

At syempre qoutang qouta sa photos

At akong ako na talaga, hahahaha!

Oh well!  It was such another memorable story of our life.  Enjoying what we have and appreciate the beauty around the corner.  We left the Infinity Resort with a smile from the heart.  A well-accomodated stay,  approachable staffs,  sumptuous meals, a swanky pool, beautiful view and kind-hearted and cooperative officemates and bosses. It's another perfect Summer Outing of Abosta Shipmanagement Corporation.

Thank you Infinity Resort! Til next!

Be Positive Think Positive!